Group Agreement for Peer Support
In Peer Support sessions and workshops, we all follow the Group Agreement. It helps everyone feel safe, welcome and included.
Keep things private
You can talk about your own experience outside of the group, but do not share anyone else’s name or story.
No pressure
You choose what you want to share. You do not have to speak or answer a question. Some people come along to share, and some come to just listen and connect. It is up to you.
Listening with care
When someone is talking, we listen. We give each speaker our full attention. We do not have side conversations.
Respect differences
Everyone is different. We do not compare or judge. We all have different opinions. We can disagree, but we do not argue.
Take care of yourself
Your wellbeing comes first. If you need a break, you can leave the room. You do not need to explain why. If you leave the room, a member of the Peer Support Team will come to see if you are OK.
Make time for other people
Your own words are important but try to be aware of how long you are speaking for. The facilitator will also help to make sure everyone gets a chance to speak.
Sharing contact details
After the session, you can share contact details if you want. You do not have to do this. And you do not have to accept anyone else’s contact details or contact them.
Kindness
We treat everyone with kindness and respect. We do not speak about anyone in the group in an unkind way. We do not use abusive words.
Different journeys
Some people have thought about their own experience for many years. Some people may not
have shared their experience before. Everyone is welcome here, and we do not judge.
Stay on topic
We focus on our own experiences and on Peer Support. We focus on hope, experiences and connection.
Support to follow the Group Agreement
Everyone’s wellbeing is really important. We want to make sure everyone has a good experience in the group.
If someone is not following the agreement, a member of the Peer Support Team may:
- gently move the conversation along
- remind the person about the group agreement
- suggest a short break
If the same issue continues, a member of the Peer Support Team will:
- talk with the person privately
- make sure the person understands the group agreement
- talk about how to keep the sessions safe, welcoming and respectful
If a person’s behaviour makes the group unsafe, a member of the Peer Support Team might:
- ask that person to take a break from the session
- ask that person to leave the session
- talk to the person about how we can support them to take part in a way that keeps everyone safe
This Group Agreement has been created by people in our Peer Support community. If you have any questions about the Group Agreement or if you think anything is missing, contact the Peer Support Team:
Peer Support Team
Email: peer-support@future-pathways.co.uk
Phone or text: 07552 393 019
You can download a copy of the Group Agreement below.
If your contact details have changed, remember to let us know. And if you would like to give feedback about Future Pathways, please contact us.
Update us
Have you changed your postal address, email address or your phone number? If you have, please let us know. It is important that we have the correct details for you so we can tell you about support.
If you have a Support Coordinator, you can let them know. Or, you can:
- email us at engagement@future-pathways.co.uk
- phone us for free on 0808 164 2005 (Monday-Friday, 10am to 4pm)
- write to us at Future Pathways, 40 Shandwick Place, Edinburgh EH2 4RT
Share your views
You can give us feedback – good or bad – at any time.
You can use our online feedback form: www.future-pathways.co.uk/feedback
If you would like to get a copy of the feedback form by post instead, you can let us know by:
- emailing engagement@future-pathways.co.uk
- phoning us for free on 0808 164 2005 (open Monday-Friday, 10am to 4pm)
- writing to us at Future Pathways, 40 Shandwick Place, Edinburgh EH2 4RT
- speaking to your Support Coordinator
Carol was supported by the Book Whisperers to publish a poetry book. Here, Carol tells us more about her writing and what it means to her.
Writing has always been quietly woven through my life even before I fully realised it. My first book, Birth of a Poet, is a collection of poetry that reflects emotion, healing and the power of words to comfort and connect. Alongside this I have written a children’s adventure story set in a magical world filled with imagination, friendship and courage. Both books come from the same place: a desire to tell stories that make people feel something, whether that is hope, warmth or a sense of belonging.
I began writing poetry in my thirties starting with a poem called The Owl. After that, life became busy and writing slipped into the background. It was only later, during a particularly stressful period in my life, that I returned to that poem and rewrote it. Something changed then. Once I started writing again, I found I could not stop. The words flowed naturally, almost as if they had been waiting patiently to be let out. Poetry became a release, a way to process thoughts and feelings that were otherwise difficult to express.
As my writing grew, so did my confidence. Future Pathways took me under their wing and helped me find the right people to support me on my journey. With encouragement and guidance, what began as scattered poems slowly turned into a collection. After around two years, I realised I had enough work to create a book. Looking back, I can see that even when I was young, I felt words could be powerful and help people feel less alone. For a long time though I lacked the confidence to believe I could truly do something with that gift.
Writing has become a form of therapy for me. When I am writing, I feel calm, focused and completely present. The world fades away and everything feels lighter. There is also a deep sense of achievement in seeing words take shape on the page, especially knowing they may help someone else in ways I may never fully understand.
Birth of a Poet became even more meaningful to me after my husband passed away two years ago. We often spoke about me finishing the book and dedicating it to him felt natural and right. It is a tribute to his belief in me and to the encouragement he always gave. Writing helped me through that loss, giving me a place to pour my grief, love and memories.
I have now published my first poetry book and am about to release my children’s book which is complete and just needs its final touches. I have already begun writing the second adventure and am also looking forward to creating more poetry in the future. If it were not for the doors opened by Future Pathways, many of these words might have remained unwritten. Instead, they are now out in the world where they belong. I hope my writing continues to reach hearts, inspire courage, and remind others that their own voices matter too in quiet ways.
Find out more
You can buy Carol’s book on Amazon.
The Book Whisperers
Carol was supported by the Book Whisperers. The Book Whisperers are one of our Delivery Partners. They help people write books. Below, you can find read interviews with The Book Whisperers and our other Delivery Partners.
In 2025, Don published a book called The Unwanted Gift. He tells us about writing his book, sharing his journey and the difference this has made.
What’s your book about?
The book is about the journey of my life. When I was two, my parents died and I was put into care. The woman in the care home was very abusive towards me.
Later on in my life, I found out I had been living with mental health problems. This was because I had never dealt with that had happened to me as a child.
But I went on to become a breakdancing champion and a martial arts instructor. So, the book is really about how your past doesn’t have to destroy your future. Your past can be powerful and it can help create your future. That’s why I called the book The Unwanted Gift.
What made you decide to write the book?
It started when I turned 42. I had achieved amazing things, but my mental health was really bad at this point. I had anxiety, low self-esteem, and my behaviour was self-destructive. My sister told me about Future Pathways. From there, my Support Coordinator encouraged me to write. She gave me the guidance and the support to start that journey.
The Book Whisperers helped you with the book. Can you tell us a bit more about that?
My Support Coordinator put me in touch with the Book Whisperers. My first meeting was with Mary Turner Thomson. She was amazing.
Mary was so gentle with me and listened to my story. She supported me to write the book. I thought it was rubbish and no one would be interested. But Mary told me to keep on writing. The book ended up being a best seller.
What was it like for you to write your book?
Sometimes, I’d find it hard. But I thought ‘You can confront and face things and heal. Or you can let it overwhelm you, fester and destroy you.’ I wasn’t going to let that happen. It was a chance to get all the thoughts out of my brain into a book and onto a shelf.
Who did you write the book for?
It wasn’t about the book; it was about being brave enough to talk about the things that broke me. I wanted to tell people it is OK to feel broken, to talk about mental health, to talk about the secrets that you were told to keep quiet. It is OK to shine a light on the dark places that you haven’t spoken about before.
What difference has the book made to you?
Now, I can look at my past and accept what happened to me. I have a much greater understanding of my life. I had a dark start, but I created a much brighter future.
And, it has made a difference to other people too. It has given people the courage to open up and speak about their own experiences. You can say words and they mean nothing to you, but they can be profound to someone else.
Find out more
The Unwanted Gift: journey from abused child to martial art master
Don’s book is available to buy online.
Don’s experience
You can read more about Don’s experience, where he talks more about support, recovery and healing.
In 2025, Don published a book about his life. Here, Don tells us how getting support to share his experience has helped him to confront his past and inspire others.
What’s your book about?
My book covers the journey of my life. It starts with my childhood in care and then being homeless at 16. It then goes on to describe getting an education, being a breakdancing champion and a martial arts instructor.
When I was two, my parents died and I was put into care. I lived in a care home in Thurso, the most northerly town in Scotland. The lady there was very abusive towards me when I was about 6 years old. As I got older, I discovered I was living with CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and FND (Functional Neurological Disorder). This was because I had never dealt with that had happened to me as a child.
The book is really about how your past doesn’t have to destroy your future. Instead, your past can be powerful, and it can help create your future. That’s why I called the book The Unwanted Gift. You wouldn’t want what happened to me to happen to anyone, but my experiences gave me the fire to achieve a great life.
What made you decide to write the book?
It started when I turned 42. I had achieved amazing things, but my mental health was really bad at this point. I had anxiety, low self-esteem, and my behavior was self-destructive.
My sister reached out to me. She told me about Future Pathways. From there, my Support Coordinator encouraged me to write. I didn’t think I was even capable of writing a book. But Future Pathways gave me the guidance and the support to start that journey.
The Book Whisperers helped you with the book. Can you tell us a bit more about that?
My Support Coordinator put me in touch with the Book Whisperers. My first meeting was with Mary Turner Thomson. She was amazing. She was so gentle with me, she listened to my story and she gave me confidence.
We would meet regularly, speak about all my stuff, and she was really supportive. I’m dyslexic but I’d write a page and send it to her. She would work with me and understand what I meant.
When I started, there were many times I wanted to stop. I thought it was rubbish and no one would be interested. But Mary told me to keep on writing. She said, ‘Even if you don’t end up printing the book, just write it down.’ The book ended up being a best seller.
What was it like for you to write your book?
Sometimes, I’d find it hard to keep writing. There were moments that were overwhelming. At other times, I’d start typing and the words would flow out of me.
I thought ‘You can confront and face things and heal. Or you can let it overwhelm you, fester and destroy you.’ I wasn’t going to let that happen. It was a chance to get all the thoughts out of my brain, into a book, and onto a shelf.
It was one of the most cathartic things I have ever done. I was able to face some things that I had been keeping private from everyone. Writing allowed me to process things from a distance, as if I was reading about someone else. It gave me a sense of control and an understanding of my life. I found it really healing.
Who did you write the book for?
All I wanted to do was to be honest about the thoughts in my head. I thought people would just judge me about my mental health and being broken.
For me, it was about going out of my comfort zone. I had hidden all the abuse for 50 years, and I felt that if I continued to keep it private, it would cost me my life. So, I did the opposite – I made it public.
It wasn’t about the book; it was about being brave enough to talk about the things that broke me. I wanted to tell people it is OK to feel broken, to talk about mental health, to talk about the secrets that you were told to keep quiet. It is OK to shine a light on the dark places that you haven’t spoken about before.
Your book also talks about your breakdancing and martial arts success – what was that like?
I started breakdancing when I was 11. I was always told I couldn’t do anything and would amount to nothing. But then breakdancing came along and I became obsessive. I trained every day to become the best. When I was dancing, people would come up to me afterwards and shake my hand. It gave me validation. I wasn’t worthless. And my team went on to become Scottish breakdancing champions – we were the best at what we did.
After that, I got into martial arts. I never wanted to be in a position again that anyone could hurt me or my family. I became obsessed with martial arts too and became a champion. Now, I’m at the highest level. I have taught all over the world. I have also been a life coach and a personal trainer, and I teach anti-bullying programmes too. It’s about empowering people.
I want to give people the confidence to be the best version of themselves. I know what it is like to prove people wrong. I have done it a thousand times. Now I can control my own destiny – I strive to be better than what I was told I was when I was a child.
How did you feel when you wrote the book?
It has been an emotional journey. Before I found Future Pathways, I used to wake up every morning and cry. This went on for years. And I also used to cry when I was with my Support Coordinator.
But then, once I started writing, I could have those conversations without breaking down. By writing it on a page and reading it over and over again, it somehow helps you process the trauma. It gives you distance and allows you to accept it a little bit more.
I could start talking to friends about what happened to me without crying. I cannot tell you how therapeutic it was.
What difference did writing the book make to you?
Now, I can look at my past and accept what happened to me. I have a much greater understanding of my life. And people have a better understanding of me. They have seen what I have had to overcome. I had a dark start, but I created a much brighter future.
And, it has made a difference to other people too. It has given people the courage to open up and speak about their own experiences. They have got mental health counselling or applied to the Redress Scheme. It hadn’t crossed my mind that my book could impact other people. You can say words and they mean nothing to you, but they can be profound to someone else.
What has kept you going?
When I first started this healing journey, I was so broken. I had always been told to keep my mouth shut and not talk about it. I used to think it was my shame. That’s why I didn’t talk. I felt shame, guilt, disgust and pain. But I realised none of it was mine. I had been taking ownership of things that didn’t belong to me. It was their guilt, their shame. It is not mine.
I wish I could go back and say to my earlier self ‘There is light at the end of the tunnel, I promise you. This moment that you’re going through, it won’t last forever. I know you can’t see any future but just keep putting one foot in front of the other.’
Healing isn’t easy but it is worthwhile. At one point, I could not see a future. I just wish I could go back and tell my six-year-old self that I had an amazing life ahead, and I just didn’t know it yet. I created an extraordinary life out of a horrible life. Just have faith. Just try to do something that improves yourself – it all builds up.
What’s next?
In my life, I have achieved everything I set out to. I proved everyone wrong. My teachers said I would never achieve anything. But guess who was right and guess who was wrong?
So, for the next years, I want peace and I want a quiet life. My book sits on my bedside table and will be there forever. The bad chapters are there too, but now I have a different perspective. Yes, that was my life, but I’m just glad that the things that were hidden are now out in the open.
FIND OUT MORE
The Unwanted Gift: journey from abused child to martial art master
Don’s book is available to buy online.
The Book Whisperers
The Book Whisperers are one of our Delivery Partners. They support people to write and publish books, including life stories, creating writing and poetry. You can find out more about their work in our Meet the Partner feature.
Redress Support Service
If you are applying to Scotland’s Redress Scheme, Redress Support Service can help you. They can support you to prepare for applying, during the application and after you have applied. You can contact them for help at any point in your journey.
Holly talks to us about her book. It is called I Thought You Cared. We find out about why she wrote it and the changes she wants to see in the care system. Please note that Holly’s book describes difficult experiences.
What is your book about?
I Thought You Cared is my memoir of growing up in the care system and the lasting trauma that came with that experience. Sadly, this book explores my experiences within care, including abuse and exploitation, at times from the very people who were responsible for protecting and caring for me. It documents not only my personal journey, but also the ways in which the system that was meant to protect me failed.
Within the book, I share the documented reality of how someone responsible for my care was able to abuse me and inflict long-term harm, as well as the wider failings of the care system and local authority that allowed it to happen.
This is not just my story. It reflects the hidden experiences of many young people who have grown up in care and, in some cases, what life in the system can still look like today. The book brings those truths into the open, offering an honest account of what happens when vulnerable children are not properly safeguarded.
What made you decide to write your book?
I started writing this book three years ago, and, truthfully, it began from a place of anger. I needed somewhere to put everything I had carried for so long. Writing became a way to release those emotions and to see my life clearly, in my own words, on paper. In many ways it was therapeutic: it allowed me to process my experiences and take ownership of my story.
Over time, though, the purpose of the book changed. It is no longer written from a place of anger. Instead, it comes from a place of awareness and truth. I wanted to show what my experience of the care system was really like and to highlight the realities that often remain hidden. Writing the book allowed me to transform pain into something that could inform, support and hopefully help others.
How did you go about writing the book?
The writing process took around three years and was far from structured. I started simply by typing whenever I felt the need to. There were no chapters or clear sections at first, just pages of thoughts, memories and reflections. Whenever something weighed on my mind or I felt inspired, I would furiously smack the keyboard with the words, barely pausing for breath.
It wasn’t until about two years into the process that I began shaping the material into something more organised, creating chapters and trying to bring a clearer structure to the story. About six months ago, through Future Pathways, I was introduced to Mary at The Book Whisperers. With her support, I was able to bring everything together properly. She helped with formatting and preparing the manuscript for publication. While my writing itself needed very little editing, her guidance was invaluable in making the book publication-ready. Without that support, I don’t believe I would have reached this point.
What are you wanting your book to do?
Above all, I want this book to create awareness. I want it to show the reality of what can happen within the care system when safeguarding fails and when silence allows harm to continue. For survivors, I hope the book offers reassurance that they are not alone. I want anyone who has experienced similar trauma to feel seen and understood, and to know there is someone who truly relates through lived experience and that you are not what was done to you!
For young people who may currently be facing similar situations, I hope the book gives them courage: the courage to speak out, to seek support and to know that what they are experiencing is not something they should have to face alone.
I also want professionals to read this book and reflect. It is important that those working within care systems understand the real-life consequences of inaction, silence and missed warning signs. If this book can encourage greater accountability, compassion and change within the system, then sharing my story will have served a meaningful purpose.
Book signing event
In April, Holly will be sharing more about her book, talking about her journey and answering questions. The event is free and books will be available to buy at the event.
Thursday 2 April 2026
6:30-9:30pm
6VT Edinburgh City Youth Cafe
11–15 Vennel
Edinburgh
EH1 2HU
Our latest Quarterly Report is now available to view. It covers our work from July to September 2025. It shows what we’ve learnt, and includes key stats and feedback from those who access Future Pathways.
What happened in Q2
55 people registered with Future Pathways.
154 people started working with a Support Coordinator.
56 people were referred to 11 Delivery Partners.
Who we supported
The average age of people who registered with us was 48.
78% of people who registered with us live in Scotland’s most populated areas.
How people felt
We received positive feedback from people we support, and we also received suggestions for how we could improve.
People shared that they felt Future Pathways listened to, understood and valued them. Many people also shared that they felt able to trust Future Pathways.
“Do you know that feeling when you know in a conversation when the other person is listening intently. […] Future Pathways when needed, have always listened.”(Person supported by Future Pathways)
Some people also shared that inconsistent or unclear communication from Future Pathways contributed to feeling less valued by and able to trust the service.
What people gained
Feedback we received indicated that most people feel they are able to access the support that is right for them. This quarter, people accessed support from our Delivery Partners including holistic support, help with record searches, and trauma support work. People also accessed our Discretionary Fund, for example to make their home feel safer and more comfortable, address immediate needs, or access technology and transportation.
“Future Pathways listens without judgment. […] They didn’t just offer support; they offered belief. They helped me reconnect with my story, my strength, and my purpose. That’s not just good practice—it’s life-changing.”
What changed for people
People also told us what changed in their life after accessing our support. Some people felt more confident and better equipped to engage in activities that were meaningful to them. Others feel that support has helped them make changes in their life, such as exploring new creative outlets.
What difference we made
Many people felt that Future Pathways’ support had made a positive impact in their lives, such as improving physical and mental wellbeing.
“I came to Future Pathways at a time when I felt like a broken diamond—scratched, dulled, and forgotten. They didn’t try to fix me. They helped me polish myself. That kind of support doesn’t just help you survive—it helps you stand tall again.”
Our full report features further infographics, feedback and a breakdown of our financial spend.
Our latest Quarterly Report is now available to view. It covers our work from April to June 2025. It shows what we’ve learnt, and includes key stats and feedback from those who access Future Pathways.
What happened in Q1
45 people registered with Future Pathways.
86 people started working with a Support Coordinator.
82 people accessed support from 15 Delivery Partners.
Who we worked with
The average age of people who registered with us was 49.
88% of people registered with us live in Scotland’s most populated areas.
How people felt
We received positive feedback from people we support, and we also received suggestions for how we could improve.
People shared that they felt Future Pathwyas understood and cared about them. Many people also shared that they felt able to trust Future Pathways.
What people gained
Many people told us they felt able to access the support that is right for them. People accessed support from our Delivery Partners such as help with record searches, holistic support and creative therapies.. And people accessed our Discretionary Fund, for example to make their home feel safe and comfortable. We supported people to link up with existing services and groups.
“Future Pathways helped me find a better life. For this, I will always be grateful.” (Person supported by Future Pathways)
What changed for people
People told us what changed in their life after accessing our support. Some people felt they could better manage day-to-day life. Others feel that support has helped them change routine or do new things.
“I am eternally grateful for the support, encouragement and patience that has been given by my Support Coordinator and Future Pathways. Not only has this given me an interest that keeps me occupied for hours at a time, it keeps my mind active and encourages me to visit new areas.” (Person supported by Future Pathways)
What difference we made
Many people felt that Future Pathways support had made a positive impact in their lives, and others feel more hopeful about the future.